The Girl’s Guide to Being a Boss (Without Being a Bitch)

August 20th, 2014

maria tettamanti

Fed up with the cubicle life, nasty bosses, shady co-workers, crappy lunches, mind-numbing meetings and 3 a.m. print deadlines, I took a leap of faith and started my career as a freelance writer at age 29. It was an entirely frightening experience but my gut and intuition — which are always spot-on— were steadfast companions during this scary metamorphosis. This being said, there’s been a lot of banter as of late about being a “Girl Boss” thanks to fellow Greek Sophia Amoruso of NastyGal fame (an e-commerce site which has sold over $100 million in clothing sales from L.A.). As an independent contractor myself, I like to think of myself as a Girl Boss (I mean, how profesh do I look in the above headshot?), and wanted to share a few tips I learned from my own experiences in the rough-and-tumble world of freelance and with a little help from Sophia’s best-selling book, #GirlBoss.

Do the Dirty Work (as Though You’re Nose-Deep in Fabuloso): When Sophia began her business, she was a one-woman merchandising, photographing, copywriting, and shipping machine. She got up at the crack of dawn to make 6 a.m. estate sales, haggled with thrift stores down to the cent, spent glazed-over hours Photoshopping the images she styled and shot herself (with models she recruited herself), and even ensured that the tedious packaging was high-quality. “I’d grab an item and inspect to make sure it was in good shape. I’d zip zippers, button buttons, and hook hooks, then fold it and slide it into a clear plastic bag that I sealed with a sticker…Then I’d put it in a box and slap a shipping label on. Only I didn’t slap anything—I took a lot of pride in how carefully I affixed those labels. I had to assume that my customer was as particular and as concerned with the aesthetics as I was.” In other words, give every realm of your brand and business 100% of your love and energy. Period. End of story. Anyone can spot a half-ass job from a mile away.

Keep Your Goals in Sight, Literally: Velveeta Cheeseball alert: I have a vision board. On this board, you’ll spot images of my family, my “Blogging 101″ class curriculum, fashion pieces I covet, homes I adore from afar, vacation spots I yearn to visit and even magazine covers I dream to see my byline appear in. I know that by surrounding myself with these concrete visuals, they stand as constant reminders to work harder. Strive more. Because you know what? These “dreams” always materialize sooner or later. Manifesting goals works. Swear!

Leave Your Entitled ‘Tude At the Door: A lot of young people I come into contact with don’t seem to grasp the notion you have to work your way up. I’m always flabbergasted when I meet younger “professionals” with all these crazy demands and limitations toward what they’ll do on the job. You know what? I don’t care if filing invoices is beneath you. If you don’t do it, who do you think is going to? 

Get Your Shit Together: I’ve been to 1,239 networking events where I stumble into peeps without business cards. Without Twitter handles. Without Facebook accounts. Without resumés, for chrissakes! Do yourself a solid and whip up a business card with all your contact info. Gussy up your resumé. Have a professional headshot on hand. Create your own bio. As obvious as these tools seem, they’re money in the bank and too few people have them readily available at the drop of a hat.

Small Milestones Can Add Up to a Giant Enterprise: Sophia admits that she never would have created a multimillion dollar business if that’s what she set out to do. Instead, she started small: buy clothes, take photos, upload them on eBay. “Starting it was as easy as picking a name and uploading the first auction. That instant gratification would never have come had my first step been to write a business plan. And without that instant gratification I might not have kept going,” she wrote. But luckily it did, and one auction led to another, which led to her own site, which led to her own designs, which led to her power brand. Baby steps, people! That’s what it takes.

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Pre-Fall Trends of 2014

August 20th, 2014


San Francisco Wedding Photography, Cleveland teenage magazines and European TV channels are all showing people trying to keep up with trends. And since no one wants to wear something that’s already played out in fashion terms, here’s a sneak peek into pre-fall trends, friends.

Now trending? Orange matte lips are the absolutely new cool thing. Cameron Diaz, in particular, rocks this off-the-beaten lip hue with aplomb. The reddish color brightens up the face and makes everyone think you’re a happy girl. Another pre-fall trend of the 2014 is the windswept updo. Seeing as the month of August has been sweltering, well, wearing your hair up a must. And the windswept up-dos are easy to do: Just pony tail your hair, pin, twist, tuck and that’s it. Your easy breezy hairstyle is done!

Orange lips aside, skin should look natural. Yes, the au naturale look is back and ironically calls for more makeup and talent, but the result is always oh la la. The natural color of your lips is always in style and your skin tone is your best tone. Plain and simple.

In terms of hair trends, be a braid-y lady. Search YouTube for free braid tutorials and using the words “rumpled braids.” Even if you spend half an hour playing with your hair, the braid gives you an effortless look. Romantic and chic, rumpled braids are flirty and feminine.

If you enjoy playing with makeup, give pastel eyeshadows a go. Let the sophisticated colors, change your image and avoid looking cheesy. Try a pastel shade that fits you the best and leave the boring eyeliner behind. So, if you’re a trendy girl who wants to look current and nice, choose these styles and combine them with your personality in your own way. Because individuality it’s always in trend and the orange lips together with windswept hairstyle will look good on you, only if you’ll do it according to your own style rules.

This is a partnered post, all opinions are my own.

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Sick Sandals and The Stankeye

August 18th, 2014

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{Mara Hoffman dress (now on sale!), Schutz “Erlina” sandals, Céline sunnies, Proenza PS1 bag on moi}

Hi, freaks! I’m back in the MIA after a lovely week in my hometown of Cape May, NJ (where I easily packed on 4 pounds from Philly cheese steaks and fried flounder). But every carb and gram of grease was well worth it because the familia and I made lots of memories on the Jersey Shore. This pic was snapped on my mama’s front porch and I’m living for the serious stankeye Ava is giving the camera. If there’s one thing I’ve learned from parenting it’s this sage nugget: I can only control my own actions. After imploring Ava to smile for the camera, well, she wasn’t having it. And honestly, I think her act of defiance gives this otherwise vanilla family picture a major dose of hilarity.

Also included in this shot are my go-to Summer sandals by Schutz. They’re super comfy and add some Spartan sass to any look.



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Denim Daze

August 14th, 2014

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{Jumper c/o Alloy Apparel, Gucci sandals on sale here, Proenza Schouler PS1 bag, Illesteva sunnies, Alex Mika Jewelry evil eye bracelet, Jennifer Zeuner necklace}

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Friends! I’m currently in the Jersey Shore — fist pumping my face off — but wanted to share this Alloy Apparel chambray romper which is trés cute and basically free as it’s priced at $49. This summer, in particular, I’ve been bitten by the denim bug and can’t seem to shake the trend. Paired with brightly colored accessories, it’s a look that just works for me. 

I wore this easy number last week at a gal pal’s birthday lunch at Mandolin Aegean Bistro, which happens to be my fave Greek resto in the 305. Their stuffed zucchini and hand-cut french fries are so good, I’d do illicit, naughty things for them. Shhhhh…

Which begs the next question: What’s your favorite restaurant in Miami and what dish should I order from them?



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Miami Ink

August 12th, 2014

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True story: In a completely inebriated state during my chronically plastered college days, I dialed up my uber conservative father and the conversation went something like this:

ME: “Dad, as a true Pisces, it’s imperative I tattoo a band of aqua-colored dolphins around my left ankle. Like, right now. I’m going to the tattoo parlor and want your blessing. Time is of the essence here. Ok?”

DAD: “Are you out of your fucking mind????!!!!’

ME: “Um, yes, but that doesn’t matter. What matters is I’m getting a tat and you need to know.”

DAD: “Well, what YOU NEED TO KNOW is that I will cut you off immediately — as in: No more college. No more chance at studying film or whatever your major is this month. No more car, no more apartment, no more cheap boxed wine, no more J. Crew sprees, no more Dave Matthews Band concerts, no more dinners at T.G.I.Fridays, no more Spring Break vacations — if you get a band of dolphins tattooed around your ankle. Dolphins! For chrissakes! How unoriginal. I’m embarrassed for you.”

ME: “Fiiiiiine. I’m hungry. I’m ordering pizza instead, Party Pooper.”

The moral of the story? Dad’s eternally right, kids. But until this very day, I’ve always wanted a tattoo and metallic gone-in-six-days Flash Tattoos do the trick for me nowadays. Now if only they’d whip up a style featuring a band of dolphins…

Photo by Ginger Harris




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